Wednesday, February 08, 2012

A taboo subject.

As much as I love colors, sometimes I feel like going monochromatic too.

The only color I allowed was the pop of red on my lips. :)

Do you remember the SKII advertisement? The model asked the audience to "come closer, come closer". This is how I feel whenever I wear something with awesome details-- COME ON CLOSER AND SEE ITS BEAUTY UPCLOSE! Hehe.

The crochet lace collar already has a tendency to look very girlie, so I toughen up the look by pairing it with a pair of suede boxer-cut shorts. To give my outfit a bit of silhouette ('cause I couldn't afford to tuck my shirt in because my shorts were too tight wtf), I decided to play with textures and threw on a velvet bow belt.

We all need a little bit of love, says Disney (Couture).

My favorite pair of shoes lately! I bought them one size up, so they are quite comfortable.

Crochet lace collar blouse: Korea
Black suede shorts: Korea
Black velvet bow belt: Korea
Diamante and pearl bracelet: F21
'LOVE' ring: Disney Couture
Black cut-out pumps: Zara
Nude block color zipper clutch: Korea


I wanted to share with you guys an article that I read recently.

From Arise India Forum:

“For many years I worked in palliative care. My patients were those who had gone home to die. Some incredibly special times were shared. I was with them for the last three to twelve weeks of their lives.

People grow a lot when they are faced with their own mortality. I learnt never to underestimate someone’s capacity for growth. Some changes were phenomenal. Each experienced a variety of emotions, as expected, denial, fear, anger, remorse, more denial and eventually acceptance. Every single patient found their peace before they departed though, every one of them.

When questioned about any regrets they had or anything they would do differently, common themes surfaced again and again. Here are the most common five:

1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.

This was the most common regret of all. When people realise that their life is almost over and look back clearly on it, it is easy to see how many dreams have gone unfulfilled. Most people had not honoured even a half of their dreams and had to die knowing that it was due to choices they had made, or not made.

It is very important to try and honour at least some of your dreams along the way. From the moment that you lose your health, it is too late. Health brings a freedom very few realise, until they no longer have it.

2. I wish I didn’t work so hard.

This came from every male patient that I nursed. They missed their children’s youth and their partner’s companionship. Women also spoke of this regret. But as most were from an older generation, many of the female patients had not been breadwinners. All of the men I nursed deeply regretted spending so much of their lives on the treadmill of a work existence.

By simplifying your lifestyle and making conscious choices along the way, it is possible to not need the income that you think you do. And by creating more space in your life, you become happier and more open to new opportunities, ones more suited to your new lifestyle.

3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings.

Many people suppressed their feelings in order to keep peace with others. As a result, they settled for a mediocre existence and never became who they were truly capable of becoming. Many developed illnesses relating to the bitterness and resentment they carried as a result.

We cannot control the reactions of others. However, although people may initially react when you change the way you are by speaking honestly, in the end it raises the relationship to a whole new and healthier level. Either that or it releases the unhealthy relationship from your life. Either way, you win.

4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.

Often they would not truly realise the full benefits of old friends until their dying weeks and it was not always possible to track them down. Many had become so caught up in their own lives that they had let golden friendships slip by over the years. There were many deep regrets about not giving friendships the time and effort that they deserved. Everyone misses their friends when they are dying.

It is common for anyone in a busy lifestyle to let friendships slip. But when you are faced with your approaching death, the physical details of life fall away. People do want to get their financial affairs in order if possible. But it is not money or status that holds the true importance for them. They want to get things in order more for the benefit of those they love. Usually though, they are too ill and weary to ever manage this task. It is all comes down to love and relationships in the end. That is all that remains in the final weeks, love and relationships.

5. I wish that I had let myself be happier.

This is a surprisingly common one. Many did not realise until the end that happiness is a choice. They had stayed stuck in old patterns and habits. The so-called ‘comfort’ of familiarity overflowed into their emotions, as well as their physical lives. Fear of change had them pretending to others, and to their selves, that they were content. When deep within, they longed to laugh properly and have silliness in their life again.

When you are on your deathbed, what others think of you is a long way from your mind. How wonderful to be able to let go and smile again, long before you are dying.

source: Arise India Forum

Death is a taboo subject for many people, but have you ever thought what would your thoughts be like in the same situation?

As morbid as it may sound, if you ask me what motivates me, one of my answers would be death. One of my biggest fears is to die without living my life to the fullest, without fulfilling my potential, without making my dreams a reality. And it is this fear that pushes me everyday, to work hard, to constantly re-evaluate myself: how can I make myself better? How can I make my life better? How can I be better?; and not forgetting to live in the moment. I am still learning, of course. And I hope you are too.

Cheers to life! :)

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Kim L said...

"One of my biggest fears is to die without living my life to the fullest," >> totally agree with you there!

Btw, love the disney couture ring!! :)

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Anonymous said...

Super love ur top! Will u be selling it on Azorias?

Anonymous said...

on a very unrelated note to the post, do you plan to bring in more accessories like clutches/bags/jewelry from Korea? please do consider!

Wandering nomad from KL said...

Thanks for the LIFE reminder :-)

revel in me said...

kim: Here's to us living our life to the fullest! *clinks glasses* :P

anonymous: Not the exact top, but look out for a lot of pretty tops (with gorgeous collars) coming up at Azorias! :D

anonymous: That's one of the popular requests from our customers! Would really really appreciate if you can let us know what exact items you would like to see on Azorias (type, style etc.) and even the price range! Thank you in advance! :)

wandering nomad: We all need that sometimes. :)